Don't Be a Victim of Bad Parenting
A friend who is trained counsellor told me that many of behaviours are due to my childhood and parenting. For example, my passiveness and unwilling to take risk, can all be traced back to my childhood.
Her advice is I have to confront the past to overcome my shortcomings. I am not sure whether the advice is correct. The past is in the past. I may be a by-product of bad parenting. I doubt my parents deliberately want to mess up my life. They did their own way, but I am sure they did their best to bring me up.
I refuse to be a victim of my parent's mistake. By playing victim, I have all the excuses to blame my parents for my failure. Not me. I own all my failures and mistakes. It is only by owning my actions, I can find the solution and motivation to grind.
Many of us had a bad childhood. Some are worse than others. We are all grown up now. We have to own our life, make our own decision. It is only then; we can walk out from the shadow of bad past.