Say No for a Happier Life
When I got home, I saw my nephew's dog in the house. My eldest son told me that he has to look after the dog until the weekend. I asked how he feels about it? He kept quiet.
My nephew is going away for Christmas holiday. He left the dog at my parent's place, but my parents are too old to look after an active dog. So, my parents called my son for help. My son never say no to the grandparents, he agreed reluctantly.
Obviously, I am angry, but I refuse to get involve in this family drama. My son has to learn to say "no". This applies to saying "no" to anyone who he thinks it is burdensome. I suffered the same issue all my life. I only started to say "no" when I started my business. Unless the task is aligned to my family's happiness or the business, it is a default "no".
By saying "yes", we create responsibilities that we do not want. This sets up expectations that people will ask for more in the future. We will get pulled away from our goals and dreams. We only get angry within ourselves. When we finally blow our lit, the other party just casually says, "You could have said no earlier". So, before you get all upset and angry, say "no" now. Say it immediately.