Their Misery is Not Your Happiness
Lately, I caught myself in an idle gossip with a friend about someone's choice of partner. We both make fun of the person's partner and speculate how the relationship will crash and burn. It was a fun afternoon.
As I am writing this, I feel regret and remorse for my action. Wanting someone to be miserable does not bring any happiness to my life. But I still made fun of it. Our happiness should not be built on someone's wrong decision or misery. When it comes to our happiness; it should come from our heart and action.
I am probably jealous of the person's happiness. I do not have an explanation on my behaviour. I only know I am wrong. I am still a work in progress, I can only try harder by refraining myself from idle gossip. Feeling regret is too late.
Someone's choice of partner or decision has nothing to do with us. We should offer our blessing that the courtship to go a long way and filled with happiness.
Stopping gossip can be difficult. Another person's misery should not be your happiness. Even if you feel happy, that feeling is fleeting. Why? Because you have not solved any of your problems. True happiness comes from action and not from someone's pain.