Do Your Expect an Apology from Your Parents?
Most of us had some childhood trauma that are due to our parent, myself included. Of course, my situation is not as bad as others. For my case, I still think I am luckier than many.
I will be in my fifties soon and I still cannot shake away some of the things that my parents did or said. I told myself that they have done their best to raise their kids. They did not bring me to this world just to ruin my life.
They being the second generation of migrant; they had it worse than me. As I was growing up, life is just not as easy as now. Resources are tight, money is tighter. Obviously, their fuses are short and patience are thin. When I made a mess or act out of line, I be in trouble.
All these years, my parents and I did not talk about my childhood. As if, there were no issues. Do I expect an apology from them? Of course not! Certain scars and wound are best left alone. It brings nothing to the table. I also do not want my parents to feel that they have messed up.
The only way is to move forward and live the best life that you can live. It is okay that there is no closure from your childhood trauma. The best gift that you can offer to your family is not to make the same mistake like your parents.