Let Your Children Own Their Problems
"Let your boys own their problems." That's what the wife to me.
As a father, I believe that parents play a huge role in the children's upbringing. I get upset whenever I see kids misbehave. I am quick to question the child's parenting. As such, I run a tight ship and question myself whenever my children behave inappropriately.
My kids are now growing into adulthood; I have to learn to let go. In fact, they should have learned to own their problems long ago. By hanging onto my children, I have taken away the opportunity for them to grow. It is only by taking ownership of their problems, they will learn to make right decisions.
As the provider for the family, I have taken many of the household ownership. For years, I was burnout and have many grievances. There were many moments I secretly blamed the family for my problems. Yet, many of my problems were self-inflicted. If I can just let go and let others own their problems, I will be in a happier place.
It is not cruel for your children to own their problems. It is mandatory for them to take ownership of their own problems. It is a sign of maturity. As a parent, we can only guide. The rest of the journey, they have to walk by themselves. It starts by letting them own their problems.