Living Kindfully

Here are three simple steps to make an effective request in any scenarios. Follow these three steps and the odds of getting what you want increases.

The steps are:

  1. State the facts
  2. Express your feelings
  3. Make the request

Scenario 1: Asking for a raise

  1. Present your achievements or any facts that you deserve a raise to your bosses.
  2. Express your feelings about your contributions to the company.
  3. Make a direct request for a raise.

Scenario 2: Your partner comes home late

  1. State the frequency and time when your partner comes home late.
  2. Tell your partner how you and children feel about your partner being late for home.
  3. Make a direct request to your partner to come home early.

Scenario 3: How to encourage yourself

  1. State how you have fallen short in life. Facts only.
  2. State how you feel about it.
  3. Tell yourself how you can take action to fix yourself.