Here are three simple steps to make an effective request in any scenarios. Follow these three steps and the odds of getting what you want increases.
The steps are:
- State the facts
- Express your feelings
- Make the request
Scenario 1: Asking for a raise
- Present your achievements or any facts that you deserve a raise to your bosses.
- Express your feelings about your contributions to the company.
- Make a direct request for a raise.
Scenario 2: Your partner comes home late
- State the frequency and time when your partner comes home late.
- Tell your partner how you and children feel about your partner being late for home.
- Make a direct request to your partner to come home early.
Scenario 3: How to encourage yourself
- State how you have fallen short in life. Facts only.
- State how you feel about it.
- Tell yourself how you can take action to fix yourself.