Volunteer Suffering
My youngest would sit on his bed and watch his phone during non-school days. For years, I have tried to get him out of the house to exercise with me and never succeeded. Eventually, he got overweight and were fat shamed by his friends.
The last few months, he exercised diligently and watch his diet. He told me that when I asked him to change his lifestyle, he sees it as suffering. Now, he still sees it as suffering, but he volunteers to suffer. As he knows, the other side of suffering is a life that he wants to have.
I am a provider to my family, so I work hard for the money to buy what my family needs. To make money, I have to surrender my ego and focus on expenses that are necessary. I curb my "wants" and focus on the family "needs". It is not easy, but I volunteer to suffer. At the end, I get is the sense of calm and pride that my family is well taken care.